- Writing is a way of life -
My Friend…

How often do we think about our lives? Are we aimlessly and mindlessly just going about our days?  I hope not. I was talking to a friend of mine today and I said to him, yes – I’m a writer, though not a particularly festive one. I  started writing a post the other day about an incredible day I recently shared with my friend Jessie. We share many days like this. We practice yoga, run, hike and laugh till our sides ache. It’s all very authentic and very real. Much of that realness I probably couldn’t share here for fear of  being committed. That’s how real it gets. I wasn’t able to finish that post because the words could only give you the surface of a friendship that is so real it defies explanations. Raw emotions we share with only a few. Emotions that don’t demand apologies or qualifications, emotions that just exist in a place that is so true that no one thing can define or touch it. That post just sits in my drafts, waiting for the “It’s a Wonderful Life” or ”Mary Poppins” stamp of approval that I know I will never be able to give it. Our explorations together are not born of fairy tales, but a friendship where one friend has the other’s back without even a second thought. A friendship that can cry out in fury, pain and agony ,while the other simply sits there nodding their head in solidarity - regardless of the circumstances. That’s Jessie and I. To reduce our friendship down to a watered down blog, full of meaningless platitudes and obligatory sentences reduces what we share to something so vague and so inauthentic that I can’t even bring myself to post it. If you have a friend that completely and wholeheartedly embraces you, all your imperfections, all your shortcomings and all your misgivings then for god’s sake love them back completely and wholeheartedly, because they are your once in a lifetime, they are your strengths and weaknesses all wrapped up in this beautiful package that is you…and them. That draft will never be posted, this I know. No, I’m not a festive writer, I write from a very raw place, a place that is sometimes dark. No explanations, no apologies, just pure love, pure faith, and a and hope that each and every one of us has a true friend in our lives. Goodnight for now, love well and be well.

Comment(s) (8)

  1. Jessie

    Yep! That is just how it is! Those are joyful and cathartic and yet grounding times. I’m blessed by having this amazing, courageous friend, Nina.

    • Nina

      Exactly and ditto! Love you Jess and love how you make me want to do better and be better!

      • Yunita

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        • Nina

          Thank you so much Yunita, that means so much to me. I appreciate your feedback and you taking the time to visit and comment. Hope you keep coming back often and soon. Take good care!

  2. Victoria

    Unfortunately, I used to think I had that in my former spouse. :(

    • Nina

      It hurts when the reality of what is comes to surface. I know you’ve let that experience strengthen you and not define you.

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